Hello Everyone,
How was your weekend? I hope it was great and are ready for another week. We are also doing fine and just going on with homeschooling as usual. We’ve actually been informed that schools will still remain closed and the earliest they would be allowed to open may be the beginning of March, so fingers crossed. Anyway, I hope you’re all hanging in there and taking it one day at a time. Today’s post is all about 10 ways to be a good mother and be proud of it. This is by far something that almost every mother worries about and thinks whether they are doing it right or wrong. I am just going to jump straight ahead and share some with you.
1. KNOW YOU ARE ENOUGH
First I would suggest you slap yourself real hard if you ever thought contrary to this. You birthed a child/children, that itself should make you know you are enough and be grateful. Somewhere out there, someone wishes they had what you have, as much as you may sometimes think different. It’s time you accept that you are a mother for life now.
2. DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF
Stop comparing yourself to your mother or other mothers out there, you are not them and never will be. Do what you want for your kids and be proud of it, make your own decisions and stop doing something just because you saw another mother doing it. It’s your child make your own mistakes not someone else’s.
3. ACCEPT YOUR FLAWS
Nobody is perfect, you are allowed to go nuts for a while it does happen so scream, shout, cry, have a messy home and dirty clothes. It’s normal to give yourself a break sometimes, have a glass of wine and chill out for an hour or two, then get back to it.
4. GET SOME ALONE TIME
I know this may not be possible sometimes but whenever you can just try. Meditate, pray, stretch whichever you choose to just have some alone time once in a while to catch up with yourself and know thyself. Be proud that you’ve gotten through the whole day or even half a day.
5. PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE
I know this is easier said than done mostly if it involves kids screaming, whining and just not listening but it’s doable. Be patient, know that kids can be challenging and you just have to remember that they are also adorable and rely on you. Use communication and understand how they may be feeling, also be at their level while talking to them and all will be fine.
6. ALWAYS BE SUPPORTIVE
Be supportive always no matter what it is, be there and take an interest in your child’s interests too, ask them questions and involve yourself in their activities. This does really help when it comes to learning new stuff, here are tips to help with your child’s learning.
7. LOVE YOURSELF
As much as you love your child unconditionally, you need to be able to love yourself too. You are human and also need some love and care. Get dressed up once in a while be it sweatpants and a t-shirt, do your hair, nails, makeup whatever it may be. Anything to make you feel good always does the job and is special enough to make you find motherhood enjoyable.
8. ALLOW KIDS TO FAIL
In order for your kids to learn and know that not all the time will be a win situation, allow them to fail and instead of going to fix it right away for them, explain the situation for them and offer assistance but not making it right for them. How else will they learn if you go making everything right for them?
9. KNOW YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Also, you need to know that every mother out there has gone or is going through what you are right now and that it will pass, be calm and enjoy the journey and if you need assistance, don’t be afraid to ask because there is help if you just allow being helped. Join groups talk to other mothers and you will find you’re all in the same boat.
10. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
Last but not least, learn to trust your instincts and do what you think is good for your kids and be proud of it. Pat yourself on the back, treat yourself, go shopping, laugh out loud, play with your children. You are a good mother and you know it.
That’s it everyone, 10 ways to be a good mother and be proud of it, tell me what you think about all this in the comments below. I hope this helps every mother and mother to be out there and makes you feel good and proud. If you’re not a mother yet and planning to here are some questions to ask yourself before having a baby. What has been your favourite part of being a mother?
